Prevention and Partnerships…
How to Play Well With Others
Presented by:
Jill Nugin, EdM
Nathaniel Nugin, EdM
Army Community Service
Fort Carson, CO
12 August 2009
Presentation Objectives
Review regulatory prevention program
Tailoring programs to specific
Prevention Partnerships
Adapting to our changing mission
What are we doing? What is working?
Regulatory “Requirements”
IAW AR 608-18 Ch3 Sec 1 there are various training requirements that
the FAPM is required to coordinate. ACS FAP staff will provide primary
and secondary prevention programs and MTF staff is responsible for
tertiary prevention programs. They include:
Community Education
Commander Education
Troop Education
Education for Professionals
Parent Education and Support
Safety Education
Spouse Abuse Prevention
Victim Advocacy Services
Family Life Education
To Stay or Not to Stay in Our
When thinking about “Domestic Violence”
it is important to consider all of those
factors that influence relationships,
between couples and parents and
Don’t get stuck in a narrow lane. It is
important for the families we serve that
we see a broad view of prevention.
Primary Prevention Programs
Stress Management
Family Wellness
Marriage Enrichment
New Parent Support Programs
Nurturing Parenting Programs
Financial Strategy Seminars
Strengthening Step Families
Infant Massage
Boot Camp for New Dads
Secondary Prevention
Teen Mom Support Group
Anger Management
Single Parent Support
New Mom Support Group
EFMP diagnosis specific Group
Waiting Families Group
Tertiary Prevention
These are programs and services that
are available through the MTF ,
specifically through Family Advocacy
Social Work Service. This will include
assessment, intervention and treatment
programs and are put in place after an
allegation has been made.
Targeting programs to meet
Installation needs
There are many sources that help us with identifying specific
populations so that we can target our prevention efforts.
SWS Data
IPT trends
Risk Reduction stats
Deployment Cycle Support
Leader feedback
MP/civilian police
Customer requests
Needs assessments
Targeting Efforts
Often you will be able to access historical or
even anecdotal data about your installation
that will lead you to the need for certain
Trends after redeployment (increase in
Newly arrived units
Training densities (JRTC, NTC)
Multiple deployment casualties/injuries
Wounded Warrior surges (high risk Soldiers)
Targeted Approach Examples
Divorce: developed at returning unit
request as they identified this as an issue.
Communicating with Children: Required
per the DCS, adapted for installation.
Building Resiliency: Installation request,
initially for female Soldiers, expanded for
Rear Detachment Commanders and Family
Readiness Group Leaders.
Communicating with Children
“Keeping the Child in mind”
Child, Youth & School Services
Fort Carson, Co.
Building Resiliency
Chief, Social Work Services
Evans Army Community
Building Resiliency
Building Resiliency
involves two things
simultaneously, in
a stressful
Self Soothing
Self Confronting
Female Soldier Resiliency Workshop
•Anyone entering Ft. Carson through the B Street Gate drives past signs bearing the
Warrior Ethos. None of them differentiates between men and women. This
workshop is not intended to differentiate, but to highlight the importance of
•Why females Soldiers? While all Soldiers share many things, there are ideals,
beliefs, values, needs and experiences that are unique to women as there are some
that are unique to men. Frank and open discussion of some subjects has been
shown to be difficult if not impossible in mixed groups. This is part of the rationale
behind holding these workshops for specific segments of the Ft. Carson family. The
first was held this past June for FRG Leaders. Plans are underway for Rear
Detachment personnel.
•Our hope is that this event provides you a much deserved respite from what is
certainly one of the most important professions in our world. Please use this
opportunity not only to learn, but to teach, to share, to grow.
29 Sept 08
Army Community Service
Female Soldier Resiliency
Resiliency Workshop for Female Soldiers
30 September 2008
Introduction by Garrison Commander
0910- 0915
CSM Kilpatrick, Garrison CSM
Pat Randle, Army Community Service Director
Melissa Nugin “Poetry Reading”
Nathaniel Nugin, Administrative Tasks/Logistics
Kirsten Holmstedt, Guest Speaker
Book Signing
Lunch; Chaplain Roberts
Breakout Sessions, 2-40 minute sessions
* Parenting, Rita Wiley; Carriage House (50)
* Finances, Fred Lewis; Cripple Creek (30)
* Relationships, Battle Buddies, Jill & Nate Nugin; Pavilion (50)
* Single Soldiers, TerriAnn Naughton; Broadmoor Room (20)
* Wounded Warriors, Latoya Lucas; 3rd Floor Board Room (20)
* Panel- Sexual Assault/Sexual Harassment; 2nd Floor Board Room (20)
Balance & Harmony, Wellness Center, Pavilion
Pampering Session/Relaxation Stations
* Chair Massage; Pavilion
* Women at the Well; Carriage House
* Aromatherapy; Pavilion
*Breathing Techniques/Muscle Relaxation; Cripple Creek
Closing; Chaplain Roberts & Evaluations; ACS, Pavilion
Prevention Programs and
Partnering and Collaboration are crucial when
developing prevention programs for several reasons:
Manpower: Most FAP’s are not staffed sufficiently to
be able to do everything that is required.
Expertise: Most installations have a variety of folks
who have expertise in areas the FAP may not.
Relationship Building: Working with other
agencies builds positive relationships that benefit in
other areas.
Other reasons??
Partnering Possibilities
Installation Chaplains
Military Family Life
MTF/Social Work
Child and Youth
Service/School Liaison
Community Assistance
Local Child Welfare
Community Vet Center
Victim Advocates
Unit Prevention Leaders
SRC Staff
Local Law
Good Partnership Fits
Spouse Abuse Prevention/Marriage
Enrichment: Chaplains, MFLC, SWS
Child Abuse Prevention: CYSS staff,
Chaplains, CYSS Consultants, Local Child
Family Life Education: MFLC, SRC staff, VA
Center, Financial Readiness Staff
Adapting to a Changing
The changing
mission of the
military has
significant impact on
the way Family
Advocacy Program
provide Prevention
Deployment and mandated reintegration
Younger families, more are new to the
military as turnover increases
Wounded Warrior families
Families stay at installations longer (life cycle)
Increases across the board in high risk
Media scrutiny, focus on negative behaviors
i.e.., DUI, Suicide, Homicide
Prevention Program
Marriage Enrichment-5 Love Languages
CARE Team Training
Boot Camp for New Dads & Nurturing
Kid’s Chat
Reintegration Training
Reunion Challenges for
Military Marriages
Reunion Expectations
Negotiating Change
Communication Techniques
Handling Conflict
Strengthening Commitment
Reunion Expectations
What kind of adjustments are necessary
when you first return from deployment?
 Any “standard” amount of time it takes for
things to get back to normal?
 Do things always get back to normal?
 What advice would you have for a couple
experiencing their first reunion?
How Do You Communicate?
What’s your style?
Your partner’s?
Withdraw or Pursue?
When do you do it
the best?
When is it hardest?
What speaks louder,
verbal or nonverbal?
Fun and Friendship
How did you meet
your spouse?
Fun things you did?
Friends first?
Last time you had fun
OK to have some
interests that are
different? Examples??
Nathaniel Nugin, EdM
 Jill Nugin, EdM
Army Community Services
Fort Carson, Colorado
The Five Love Languages
Your love language and that of your spouse
may be as different as Chinese and English.
 We may be sincere when expressing our
love to each other, but that might not be
 We must be willing to learn our spouse’s
primary love language if we are to be
effective communicators of love.
 We must also understand our own primary
love language.
Love Languages
Basically five emotional love
 Each has numerous dialects
 Each person develops a primary LL
based on unique psychological
makeup and how love was
expressed to them
 Most important to speak the love
language of your spouse
The Five Love Languages
 Words
of Affirmation
 Quality Time
 Receiving of Gifts
 Acts of Service
 Physical Touch
“When you allow your
friend to talk about the
one who died, you are a
Why Be A CARE Team
What is my motivation to do this?
What are my strengths?
How will I care for myself?
How will this job affect my family, my
• Will this increase my own stress about
my spouse?
• What are my support systems?
Boot Camp for New Dads
Program began at Fort Carson in Feb 2000.
Taught for Dads, by Dads (in our case our
male troop educator).
Meets at lunch time, first 3 Wed of each
Session on How Dads learn to be fathers,
caring for Mom, caring for Baby.
Is often a CRC recommendation for a dad
with a child abuse/neglect allegation.
Boot Camp adaptation
When a large unit returns from
deployment, there is often a request for
a unit specific Boot Camp for all Soldiers
who have become fathers during the
deployment. Done in one session, at
the unit.
Kid’s Chat
Kids Chat was developed at Fort Carson in
response to concerns that the children of
Soldiers needed an opportunity to share how
they were feeling about deployments. There
had been an increase in MP reports
concerning teens and CYS was reporting an
increase in negative behaviors in the
classrooms. FRG leaders and Rear D
Commanders asked ACS/FAP to address
these concerns…….and Kids Chat was born.
What Kid’s Chat looks like
Children are divided in to 3 age groups, 5-8, 9-12
and 13 and up. Each group is facilitated by 2 or
more staff.
Each group has specific curriculum, and it can include
games, crafts, stories and discussion
While the kids meet, parents are invited to participate
in a discussion group about their concerns, facilitated
by FAP.
After 90 minutes, the groups meet for refreshments
(unit provided) and parents get feedback, as
Kid’s Chat can be done before deployment, during or
getting ready for reunion.
“…a man’s got to know his
A Network of Partners
ACS Mob & Dep
ACS FAP Coordinator
DV Trainer
Financial Readiness
Sexual Assault
New Parent Support
Vet Center
Preventive Med
Unit Rear Det
Soldiers and Families
Ed Svcs
• Positive Outlets
– Education Services
• Communication
– w/Spouse
– Single Soldiers
– Divorcing
– w/Children
• Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI)
• Soldier Battlemind I
– Breakout Groups
• Spouse Battlemind
• Money Matters
• Medical Threat
• Legal
• Domestic Violence Prevention
• Sexual Assault Awareness and
• Suicide Prevention
Breaking it down…
Day One
 Positive Outlets- Ed Center, DFMWR, ACAP
 Communicate w/Spouse- FAP Coordinator
 Communicate (Single Soldiers)- FAP / Vet Center
 Communicate (Divorce)- MFLC
 Communicate w/Children- CYSS
 Spouse Battlemind- Mob/Dep
 Soldier Battlemind- UMT
 Battlemind Breakout Groups- Vet Center/MFLC
…and More
Day 2
Domestic Violence- FAP Trainer
ASAP- Ed Coordinator
Medical Threat- Preventive Medicine
Legal- JAG
Money Matter- Financial Readiness Program
Sexual Assault- Trainer
Suicide Prevention- UMT
Prevention Wrap-Up
Be creative…most things that you
develop for families are prevention.
Use all of the installation and
community resources that you can!
CASE……copy and steal everything
(with permission of course!)
Have fun with prevention!
Jill Nugin (719) 526-0445
DSN 691-0445
Nathaniel Nugin (719) 526-4590
DSN 691-4590

Prevention Program Development