Love Languages Speaking different languages makes good communication difficult Love Languages How was love expressed in your family? If we want to communicate effectively with our spouses, we may have to learn their Love Language.. When the emotional tank is low, feelings of love go away When I feel loved by my spouse, I feel secure and my sense of self-worth is fed. If she/loves me, I must have significance. Five Love Languages 1 Words of Affirmation “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” - Mark Twain Verbal compliments are far greater motivators than nagging words Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse’s perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. 2 Quality Time Quality Time Emphasis is not on what you’re doing but on why Togetherness is focused attention, not proximity Doesn’t matter what you do Creating memories 3 Receiving Gifts Gifts are visible symbols of love that have emotional value. You can learn to be a proficient gift giver Doesn’t have to be expensive or often. It has nothing to do with monetary value and everything to do with love! There’s presents and then there’s presence… The gift of self The Gift of Self 4 Acts of Service Doing things you know your spouse would like you to do Requires thought, planning, time, effort, energy… and a positive spirit. Need to learn their dialect so we can do the right things! 5 Physical Touch Some people emotionally yearn for their spouses to reach out and touch them physically Which love language does your spouse speak? When an action doesn’t come naturally to you, it is a greater expression of love True Love Just do it, whether you understand it, like it, or want to. Love is a choice If I know their primary love language and choose to speak it, her/his deepest emotional need will be met and she/he will feel secure in my love. Each partner holds the key to changing the emotional climate of the marriage.