NURIA RODRIQUES LAMAS
Buenos días a todas las personas en este Seminario.
Aunque tuve poco tiempo para preparar lo que voy a decir, no creo
que me equivoque mucho.
Supero la vergüenza y les voy a contar algunas experiencias de mi
vida.
Me llamo Nuria, tengo 30 años.
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Trabajo en una cafetería y vivo con mi hija Melanie que tiene 7 años.
Melanie es una de las personas más importantes de mi vida.
De pequeña iba al colegio de mi barrio, tenía amigas y jugaba con
ellas, pero me costaba aprender
Entonces a mi madre le dijeron que tenía discapacidad.
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Me hice mayor y empecé a trabajar, tuve muchos trabajos, me gustaba el
trabajo de dependienta, pero tengo problemas a la hora de manejar el
dinero.
Así fue pasando mi vida, yo soñaba con tener una pareja, tener mi casa,
tener mis niños.
Tenía un novio y me quedé embarazada.
Yo estaba segura de tener a mi niña.
El padre no decía que no.
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Y nació la niña.
Eramos una familia, pero algo no funcionaba.
El tenía derecho a salir y estar fuera de casa, yo tenía que cuidar la
casa y la niña.
Cuando Melanie tenía 2 años nos vinimos las dos a Madrid.
Desde entonces cuido a mi hija sola.
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Los problemas que he tenido para cuidar a Melanie, no tienen nada
que ver con la discapacidad.
 Si yo tuviera una casa para las dos.
 Si yo tuviera un empleo que coincidiera con los horarios de mi hija
en el colegio.
Todo sería diferente…
He pasado momentos malos, pero nunca pensé en tirar la toalla.
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Dicen que la violencia es cuando te pegan.
Pero yo muchas veces me he sentido como si me hubieran dado una
paliza, aunque no me hayan tocado.
Aunque a veces dude en como educar a mi hija, soy una buena madre.
Soy una buena trabajadora, así lo dicen en todos los sitios donde trabajé.
Creo que soy una mujer valiente.
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Pero a las mujeres como yo la sociedad nos pone las cosas mucho más
difíciles.
Por eso no me gusta que siempre que hablen de mi digan la palabra
discapacidad
Soy como las demás mujeres hago lo mismo que ellas aunque a veces lo
hago de otra manera.
Muchas gracias por haberme invitado y sobre todo por haberme
escuchado
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Good morning to all persons in this Seminar.
I have not prepared too much what I am going to say, but I don´t think
I am going to get wrong too much.
I am going to leave my shyness behind
And I try to tell you some experiences of my life.
My name is Nuria and I am 30 years old.
I work in a cafeteria and I have a daughter called Melanie who is 8 years
old. We two live together in an apartment
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MELANIE is one of the most important persons in my life.
When I was a little girl, I attended a school at my neighborhood ; I
had friends to play with, but, also, a lot of difficulties to learn.
It was then when my mother was told that I had intellectual disability.
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I grown up, started to work and had different jobs, I specially enjoyed
working in shops but I have difficulties to handle with money .
So, Time went by and I dreamed of having a couple, my own home,
and my kids.
I met a boy, he became my boyfriend and I got pregnant.
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I was determinated to have my baby and her father did not say NO.
And my daughter was born.
We apparently were a family, but there was something that did not
work.
It seemed that he had the right to go out and have fun .Whereas I had
to stay at home taking care of the baby and the housework.
When Melanie was 2 y. o. I separated, and we both returned to
Madrid.
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Since then, I take care for her alone (*almost alone: my mother and sister live in
Madrid too.)
I have gone through difficulties to take care of Melanie, but they have nothing to do
with disability.
 .If I had a house for the two of us… (If I could easily pay a house for we two)
 If I had a good job which timetable could be compatible with my daughter`s at
school…
 If I had someone who took care of her while I am working…
…Then everything would be different!!!
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Although I had gone through bad moments, but I have never
thought to give up.
It is said that violence means that you are hitten by somebody.
However , I sometimes have the feeling of being broken, even when
no one has touched me.
I often have doubts about how to educate my daughter, but …
Still I think that I am a “good Mother”
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I am a good worker aswell (or at least )that is what people wherever I
have worked have said”.
I do belief that I am a brave woman.
However, society makes things difficult to women like me.
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That is why I don´t like the word “disability” appearing every single
time that people talk about me.
I am like other women; I do the same things that they/ you do,
although, perhaps, in a different way.
Thanks very much for your invitation and, overall for listening to
me.
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