Building Healthy Relationships
Practicing Communication Skills
Communication is the exchange of
information thought the use of words or
More than just talking face to face.
Body Language is postures gestures and facial
 Posture is how you hold your body.
 Gestures are motions you make with your hands.
 Body language is nonverbal communication.
Mixed Message is a situation in which your words
say one thing but your body language says another.
Good Communication Skills
 Include listening and showing that you
understand what the other person is saying.
 You need to be a good speaker, listener, and
writer to send and receive messages.
Practicing Communication Skills
Speaking Skills
 Think
before speaking.
 Make clear, simple statements.
 Use “I” message. “I” messages speak from
your point of view to send a message.
 Be honest.
 Use appropriate body language.
Practicing Communication Skills
Listening Skills - Active listening means hearing,
thinking about, and responding to another person’s
Pay attention
Use body language
Wait your turn.
Ask questions.
Writing Skills
 Write clear, simple statements.
 Re-read your words before you send a message.
 Make sure your written words say what you mean.
RULES TO LIVE BY: Don’t put anything in writing you do
not want the whole world to read.
Communication Style
An assertive Communicator states his
or her positions in a firm but positive
An aggressive Communicator is
someone who tends to be overly
forceful, pushy, hostile, or otherwise
attacking in approach.
A passive Communicator has a
tendency to give up, or give in, or back
down without standing up for his or her
rights and needs.
Family Relationships
Family is the basic unit of society and includes
two or more people joined by blood, marriage,
adoption, or a desire to support each other.
A couple is two people who do not have
A nuclear family is two parents and one or more
An extended family is a nuclear family plus
other relatives.
A blended family has two adults and one or
more children from a previous relationship.
A foster family has adults caring for one or
more children born to different parents.
An adoptive family is a couple plus adopted
A joint custody family has two parents living
apart and sharing custody of children.
A single custody family has parents living apart
and children living with one parent.
Family Relationships
To nurture is to fulfill physical
needs, mental/emotional needs,
and social needs.
Physical ~ families care for their
members by providing food,
clothing, and shelter.
 Mental/Emotional ~ family
members offer love, acceptance,
and support. They pass along
traditions, values, and beliefs.
 Social ~ Families teach their
member how to get along with
each other and with people
outside the family.
Family Relationships
A role is a part you play when you
interact with another person. A strong
family is built on good relationships
 Support
one another.
 Show appreciation for one another.
 Follow family rules.
 Spend quality time together.
 Use good communication skills.
 Show responsibility.
 Show respect.
Changes in the Family
Moving to a new home.
Separation, Divorce, or remarriage of
Spend time with new sibling. Ask to help.
Illness or injury.
Ask how you can help.
Birth or adoption of a new sibling.
Tell both parents you love them. Talk to a trusted
adult about your feelings.
Job change or job loss.
Find aspects to your new neighborhood and try
to meet other teens.
Show you care, ask to help.
Death, loss, and grief.
Pay attention to younger members of the family.
Serious Family Problems
A parent or guardian is responsible for
caring for a child’s physical,
mental/emotional and social needs.
Abuse is a pattern of mistreatment of
another person.
 Physical Abuse involves the use of
physical force, such as hitting or
 Sexual abuse is any mistreatment of a
child or adult involving sexual activity.
 Neglect is failure to provide for the
basic physical and emotional needs of
a dependent.
Peer Relationships
Peers are people close to you
in age who are a lot like you.
Acquaintance is someone you
see occasionally or know
Who you go to school with and
other teens you know from your
outside activities.
Sometimes they become friends.
Friendship is a relationship
with someone you know, trust,
and regard with affection.
Usually begin with a common
Peer Relations
What Makes a good Friend?
 Shared
 Reliability
Reliable means trust worthy and
 Loyal
or Faithful
 Sympathy
sympathetic friend is aware of how
you may be feeling at a given moment.
 Caring
 Trust
 Respect
Peer Relations
Making new Friends
 Be
 Break the ice.
 Seek out teens who share
your interest.
 Join a group that works for
a cause you support.
Strengthening Friendships
 Spend
time together
 Communicate openly and
 Help each other through
hard times
 Respect each others
 Encourage each other
 Identify problems and
work to solve them.
Peer Pressure
The influence that your peer group
has on you is peer pressure.
Positive peer pressure.
Helps you make healthful choices.
Negative peer pressure.
Avoid the situation
Use assertive responses
Healthful – affect your well-being?
Ethical – show respect?
Legal – breaking the law?
Parent Approved – if they knew?
An assertive response states your
position strongly and confidently.
Focus on the issue
Walk away.

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